"Every married individual should feel that he or she alone bears the responsibility for peace in the home. Both partners in the marital union must learn their respective responsibilities and obligations and do their utmost to fulfill them. Neither should police the other; a person that's occupied with finding fault in someone else fails to see his or her own faults."

 

“If you want to honor your wife, compliment her and praise her and never say anything negative to her. Don’t be lazy about this. Every word of encouragement, support, comfort, praise or honor is a gift of loving-kindness that you give your wife. Each one plants in her the feeling that you value and cherish her, and this literally gives her new life. You build her self-confidence and fill her with vibrancy and joy, which make it easier for her to cope with the challenges of life. The words of praise that you tell her constantly echo in her heart. Every time she thinks about them, she’s filled with joy. This strengthens the home spiritually, making it a joyous, happy and peaceful place. Words of praise give her the strength and will-power to manage her home and children in the best possible way. Tell her how happy you are with her and impressed you are with her skills, alacrity and wit. Express all of this with emotionally-packed words – make her feel that she’s your greatest treasure. Be consistent with your compliments and never take them back.” - Rabbi Shalom Arush: